The Magic of 'NO'!

 I sometimes look back at my life

and at the choices I made,
And I wonder
How interesting life becomes
when things don’t go as planned.

I used to be a big planner.
I planned every detail.
I loved watching my plans come true.

But life, of course,
doesn’t work that way.

Many plans failed.
Many disappointments arrived.
Life happened.

There was a year
when I compared
what I had planned
with what actually unfolded.

And life surprised me, it always does
in ways I could never have designed myself.

So I stopped.

I stopped planning.
I started making goals
without forcing myself to reach them.

I broke my comfort,
my rules,
my expectations.

And somehow,
life filled itself
with joy
and stories.

Sometimes I wonder
what if I had said yes
to my first relationship?

But every No
brought me here.

Every No I said
to choose myself
opened another road,
another meeting,
another version of life.

What comes with no
is not always light.

Sometimes it carries grief.
Sadness.
Boundaries that hurt to build.

But over the years,
I learned that saying no
is not rejection
It is protection.

It is choosing
What is not right for me,
or simply not right
for now.

And strangely,
every no opened doors
I didn’t even know existed.

And comfort, somehow

Because every magical no
comes with a magical yes.

A yes to another path.
A yes to unexpected possibilities.
A yes to wild, unknown doors.

And now, when I look back,
I can see the fruits of those choices.

I can feel
that it had to be a no back then
for me to arrive
At this moment now.

To all the versions I once was;

I HAVE NO ENERGY LEFT

“I HAVE NO ENERGY LEFT” I said that after doing my best. I have no fight left in me for those who have no dignity, for those who are different in a good or bad way, just different. The ones who don’t align with my values. The ones who choose themselves over others, Who listens to one side and refuse to hear the other. Who thinks twice before giving, who think twice before loving, who think twice about sharing their food not only that, but carry such heavy moods they make you question your own goodness, as if it’s not enough, or not as worthy as theirs. Those who see the world differently who decides who is right and who is wrong, who deserves land more than another, Who deserves a visa? a paper, or even a mother. To the politicians’ anger. To women-haters. I had no energy left in me. To those who cannot dream. To those who do not dare. To live life I wish to spare myself. To the greedy. To the needy. To the ones who do not dare to dream, yet still dare to scream!
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